There is a bee line of American men who want to go to Latin America and find lovers, girl friends and wives. There are thousands of pages written on the web saying, “If you have the means, do it.” Web sites facilitate it, people in general don’t like to talk about, and even Rush Limbaugh, before he was married, came back from a trip ‘with the fellas’ from there and got caught with a bottle of Viagra, so you have to assume he wasn’t there to get cheap leather products.
Why? What do these women have that American women don’t, is it really better and, if so, how do you get it?
First of all, in the whole ‘Sugar Baby’ world, I’ve written extensively about the benefits of a younger woman for an older man, as opposed to one our own age. I’m approaching my middle 50’s. I just don’t want a woman my age – not because she has a few wrinkles or a couple sags, but because the woman my age who’s single has more baggage than a greyhound bus, and I simply don’t want to carry the weight of the last man who wronged her. Do women get the short end of the stick a lot? Yes, definitely, but not from ME. American women are being told, over and over, express that pain and demand that men own up to it.
Why in the WORLD would I step up to that, especially considering that American women notoriously have no respect for the guys who do? When a woman of any culture can whip a man for something that he didn’t do and get away with it, she sees him as less, and she’s going to dump him when someone better comes along.
Latin American women, in general, are more in tune emotionally with what men want, which is why I picked this particular picture of a girl on a meeting site. She’s showing off her curves, she’s looking down submissively (not daring you to look at her, but looking away and letting you), and she dressed provocatively without showing that much skin. Personally, I don’t go for tattoos, but she’s picked one that accentuates her curves.
Now, in her case, that is one big ass. Also not my thing, but she pulls off the look she wants to portray.
I’ve seen American woman lay in to a guy who ‘looked at them,’ when they were dressed provocatively. There’s a whole thing called ‘slut walk,’ which glorifies it. I don’t think women in general understand how much this ‘liberation’ is hurting them. Unless you’re willing to have your IQ branded on your forehead with a certification, then the only thing you have to make me want to meet you are your looks, and that’s a pretty hard thing to pull off when you don’t want me looking at you.
Latin women are putting more on display because the men whom they’re raised with look for it unashamedly, even in the progressive places like Costa Rica (which calls itself 8% conservative by political measure). They understand that men like beautiful girls but, more importantly, men like FUN girls. Fun girls want to dance, want to laugh, want to go out and have a good time with you in the process of finding out if you’re right for them. They aren’t looking for the first thing you say, that might be considered offensive and, if you make an off-hand comment they don’t like, they won’t beat you up for it.
Which is not to say this woman doesn’t exist in Latin America. I dropped ‘M’ for just this reason. She is beautiful, but she’s no fun! She pushed that and I stopped talking to her, and went on to Tinsel Teeth, who is, simply more likely to be fun to be with.
Now, let’s compare these two. Both beautiful (neither would agree, by the way). Both have a kid. Both have profile pictures that show off their cleavage. Once they decided that I was a prospect for them (and each clearly, consciously, interviewed me with that in mind), both acknowledged that sex was on the table when I went to Costa Rica.
Both want to come here. Both will tell you that they were treated like crap by their first guy, who was Costa Rican. Both see an older, American man as a solid personal move – treat him right and you’re pretty well set for life.
They’re essentially sugar babies who don’t want an allowance. They’re my ‘third type,’ who are seeking a financially solid guy for a secure life.
And let’s get this straight: these Latin girls are not a lot of doe-eyed angels who are patiently waiting to be chosen. There are thousands of these girls who are heartless scammers looking to get over on a horny, wealthy guy, take his money and keep it. You have to be at least as careful with a Latin American sugar baby as you would with an American – maybe more so because you’re not going to see it coming from the Latin girl, and the laws in their home countries REALLY favor them. Much as these Latin guys seem to have no requirement to support their kids, an American is going to get creamed with a big child-support bill, completely enforceable under US law. A lot of the advice groups tell you right off, “Before you marry one, get a vasectomy.”
So why go there? Because of the higher density of women who just want to be good wives, be taken care of, and don’t see love as a commodity to be traded or withheld.
This is the end-point: Latin girls still act like traditional girls. They don’t bridle when they hear those terms, and you simply have a hard time finding that with American women. Tinsel Teeth has said more than once, “I’m happy to have met you, because you’re a gentleman and I think you’re going to treat me with respect.” I have gotten bathing suit pictures from her, but in her case I didn’t ask for nudes. We talked about sex but I’m not sexting with her and I don’t want to. This is better than I treated a lot of sugar babies at the start and, I’ll admit, it’s a measure of how she handled me, and I’m comfortable with it.
I could meet her and it could blow up in my face – and knowing that, I’m in contact with some back ups, but this is more positive than I usually am with a new girl.
Compare her with ‘new girl,’ whom I don’t see anymore, who essentially morphed into a whore-for-hire. That was off-and-on, non-stop drama and unreliability with a self-destructive beauty-queen whom I really had about zero respect for.
American women are eventually going to say, “It’s OK to ‘want a man.'” I don’t mean generationally, but at some point in their lives. When they do, if they’re pissed off about it, they’re not going to do well. No man wants to carry the baggage of the guy you couldn’t have or who did you wrong. While Latin women are willing to say, “That guy did me wrong, but THIS guy isn’t him,” they’re going to keep men coming, looking for them.