As far as a lot of people are concerned, SB’s and SD’s both, the value in the Sugar Baby is sex, and the value of the Sugar Baby is whatever she’ll give it up for.
After that, it’s a matter of budget and availability. I read a lot of SB blogs and so many of them are high-lighted with “I scored a $1,500 pair of shoes,” or “I only had to blow him for this.”
And if that’s what you’re looking for, you can find it at a price that fits your budget, if you’re patient. You can have it until one or both of you are tired of it, and then most likely, a little older and a little wiser, you can find it again.
But are we cheating ourselves? Let’s look beyond the whole idea of May-December romance and look at the barter system inherent in the SD/SB relationship. What is the SD getting, what does he want, and can the SB provide it?
If we’re talking sex, simple enough. We’ve had this conversation before – if the SD just wants a safe source of sex, he can go to a lot of places to get it, cheaper and in a lot of cases better.
There’s a lot to be said for the SB who legitimately wants to SEE her SD. The one who isn’t so clearly thinking, “Buy me,” as much as she is “Tell me.”
Tell me about your day
Tell me about your life.
Tell me what you’re dreaming of, and tell me why.
Let me tell you about ME.
And not just relationship basics of “You have to share,” but actually seeking out the things that her SD is looking for and, if not being a source of them, being a guide to them.
Meanwhile, the SD needs to ask himself, if he can find it, can he handle it. Plenty of them can’t or won’t. If you’re a guy (or with a guy) who just wants some sex when he’s horny, don’t waste your time, but I think a lot of women are going to find that their SD is seeking that deeper, better, more meaningful relationship which actually starts off as a transaction, is actually BUILT on that transaction, and then that transaction takes on new depth, new meaning and more significance.
Same with SB’s – some just want to lay down, put their head to the side, moan gratefully for 20 minutes and get a new pair of earrings. There’s plenty of them out there, plenty of men for them and, frankly, a lot of them are looked at as the bulk of the industry.
But here I’m asking you to ask yourself – are you missing out on that better relationship? Do you want the ear rings, or do you want a more special something, more tailored to you, more meaningful, because the SD actually know and cares who you are?
OK, that’s your philosophy lesson for the week, my droogies. Hope I gave you something to think about